Let’s look at how women face gender specific issues and the huge elements in life that hold you back from attaining your dreams. The nasty little things they call ‘limiting beliefs’.
When we are born, we have everything we need to be massively successful in everything we do. Over time however with negative life experiences, we sometimes lose how to turn it on until the moment we need it to just keep breathing. Your negative self-talk and thinking patterns are powerful sabotages to your motivation; they leave you feeling bad and can shift you into procrastination mode.
The most obvious reason we lack confidence and self-esteem in certain areas of our lives is that we’ve trained ourselves to believe certain things over many, many years – usually dating back to our childhoods.
If you felt unsupported, unloved, harshly criticized, or abused during your young years, your feelings or self-confidence and self-worth can be severely damaged. Having the security of loving, emotionally healthy and full present parents is essential to your own emotional health and ability to develop normally and confidently.
These negative beliefs you have about yourself, your abilities and worthiness have become such a part of you that you might not realize they are no longer true or necessary.
Take a moment and think about a negative, limiting belief that you can trace back to a childhood or adolescent event or circumstance. If there are several just pick one for now, perhaps the one that bothers you or inhibits you the most. For example, you might think, “I don’t deserve a loving relationship” or “I am bound to fail at anything I try.”
Now, take a moment to think about the event back when you were younger that you believe triggered those beliefs.
Next think about how the triggering events that happened years ago are no longer true or real for you now. You might say “my parents no longer berate me” or “I am not being bullied anymore.” How has reality changed for you since those events?
Come up with some real facts and evidence that contradict the limiting belief that you formed about yourself in your childhood. It’s not real anymore! If you believe you aren’t capable of success, consider the times you have been successful in recent weeks or years.
Lastly, come up with a positive affirmation or saying that is the opposite of your limiting belief and snap this into your mind whenever that limiting belief comes up for you again. Replace your old thought with this new powerful tool that supports your self-confidence.
When we are passionately and happily aligned with our values, the unconscious mind provides motivation to move forward in our lives from the inspiration seen in the positive outcome of every action we take.
